In creating the parenting agreement, the soon to be EX (and usually it is the husband) demands a 50/50 custody agreement. No doubt, for some parents the 50/50 works when they live close to each other and in the same school district and the parents talk to each other (not shout or criticize). But for most 50/50 does not work.
Still, some men see the 50/50 option as a way to not pay any child support or to lower their child support commitment. How do you test the commitment waters? Keep a calendar (and copy of text and email messages)of how often Dad sees the kids? Is he often very late or regularly brings the kids home early? Has he been granted multiple weekends and multiple days of the week for visitation but he just can’t seem to find the time (sports, gym, work, etc). He doesn’t have time to take the kids to the doctor, or swim lessons, or school sports. Parent’s night at school and he is AOL.
Bring this “evidence” to the court to support your position that Dad’s 50/50 proposal is a sham to reduce or eliminate child support.
Children are not pawns or poker chips. They are your kids, your blood runs in their veins. Man-up (or in some cases,woman-up)